The Pressure We Feel To Be “perfect”
Motherhood comes with a weight no one really warns you about, the pressure to “get it right” We see picture perfect lunches, color coordinated outfits, and friends who somehow keep their houses spotless with little ones running around. It’s so easy to compare ourselves and feel like we’re falling short.
I use to think being a ” good mom” meant every snack had to be organic, every toy educational, and every meltdown handled with calm wisdom. But life doesn’t look like that. Social Media may make it seem like perfection is the standard, but the truth is, none of us are living that way 24/7.
Why Perfection Isn’t Realistic (or healthy)
Here’s the thing: chasing perfection doesn’t just exhaust us, it steals our joy. When I’m busy trying to make everything flawless, I miss the moments that actually matter. I stress, I snap, and instead of connecting with my kids, I’m too focused on appearances.
Our kids don’t need a perfect mom. They need a present mom. They need love, attention, and laughter, not bento-box lunches worthy of Instagram. Sometimes it’s healthier for everyone is dinner comes from the drive tru instead of stressing over the “perfect” home cooked meal.
What real mom life looks like
Here’s what my mom life really looks like
- Coffee and energy drinks are my lifeline (but sometimes its lions mane in a golden latte when needed)
- I love cooking healthy meals, but my kids are no stranger to fries and nuggets
- My living room floor usually looks like a toy store exploded.
- Laundry is NEVER finished.
- Comfort shows on repeat? Always. (Because watching something familiar after a long day feels like a hug.)
It’s messy, it’s loud, it’s chaotic. But it’s also filled with giggles, sticky kisses, random “I love you, mommy.” that’s the stuff my kids will remember.
Embracing imperfection together
The more I open up about the messy, unfiltered parts of motherhood, the more I realize we’re all craving honesty. Moms don’t need another reminder of how “behind” we are. We need reminders that we’re not alone.
Perfection isn’t the goal. Connection is, Grace is. Joy is.
So let’s let go of trying to be the “perfect mom” and instead focus on being the moms our kids already think are pretty amazing, imperfect and all.
The truth about perfect mom life
At the end of the day, mom life isn’t about having it all together. It’s about showing up, loving hard, and laughing through the chaos. Our flaws don’t disqualify us, they make us real. And when we embrace that, motherhood feels a lot lighter.
Because mom life? it’s not picture perfect, but it’s perfectly worth it.
“My Grace is Sufficient for You, For My Power is Made Perfect In Weakness.”
2 Corinthians 12:9